Everyone loves the smell of a newborn baby. There's something about the clean, sweet cotton smell that immediately fills you with joy. Holding a baby, the greatest gift form God, what is better?
But as all you parents out there know, you aren't full of joy 100% of the time with a newborn. You're emotional, sleep deprived, a little lost and perplexed at how difficult it is to take care of your baby.
This might not be every parents experience, but having a newborn for my husband and I was hard. Frickin' hard both physically and emotionally.
I had postpartum depression, our son had his days and nights flipped, Mitch watched me cry 15 times a day and couldn't make me feel better, no one told me my boobs would drench my clothes or that id need help lowering my crotch to the toilet, we were running on 2 hours of sleep in 72 hours and and our son had borderline colic.
We loved him with every ounce of our being but WTF. Why is this so hard we thought to ourselves. Are we terrible parents? Does anyone else go through this?
I'm telling you all this not to create a pitty party for myself or to scare expecting mothers. More to say when you become a new parents, you aren't alone. Because we thought we were. We thought every other parents knew what they were doing and we didn't. We thought every other parent was full of constant joy and we weren't. I as the mother thought something was wrong with me when I help my baby and felt like i was drowning in sadness instead of joy.
We throw baby showers for our girlfriends to shower them with baby clothes, nursery decor and to talk about how beautiful it is to be a parents. So naturally, we go into parenthood imagining our kids in matching outfits, sleeping in adorable rooms, going for peaceful walks, and snuggling our sleeping baby all day long.
I think this is why many of us struggle when the does baby comes. No one prepared us for the reality of a newborn.
So we find ourselves sad, tired, frustrated, alone and lost and the worst part is, we think we're the only one because no one talked about their struggles with a newborn.
I'm saying all this because when I was pregnant, I would browse the internet for newborn photos, look for nursery decor and gawk at all the moms holding their sleeping babies. And all it did was give me a false reality of what was about to come.
This is the reason I both love and hate newborn photos.
As the parent, you want your newborn photos to bring you joy and remind you of al the peaceful, heartfelt moments you've had with your baby.
So here I am rambling now because I don't want to share these beautiful, peaceful images with you all like others shared with me.
I Love newborn photos because I genuinely believe they capture nothing but the joy. You can photograph a frustrating moment and it's caught as something beautiful. You can photograph the raw emotion of a mothers tear or subdued smile and you see the photo as powerful love, not sadness.
Changing a baby can be hard, yet when you are photographed changing your baby it's nothing but precious.
So mamas remember newborn photos capture pure joy and peace and they leave out the hardship. And know, you are not alone when this newborn comes.